Victoria Alario, Confidence Coach and Host of For The Girls podcast, joins the Seeing Other People family today. We discuss what safety looks and feels like in a relationship, how to stop falling for a version of someone you created in your head, and why you need to focus on how you feel about them instead of how they feel about you. Victoria shares her expertise on how to become more confident, why you shouldn’t let someone’s disinterest shake your confidence, and how to develop standards that stop you from settling for less than you deserve. Later, we answer listener questions about self sabotaging and what to do when an ex continues to go to all of your spots.
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How To Not Settle & The Key To Confidence with Victoria Alario

Modern dating sucks, but dating expert Ilana Dunn is here to make it suck just a little bit less. Join host Ilana and both well-known and anonymous, unfiltered guests as they navigate the complexities and realities of modern dating. From first dates to breakups, they’re not afraid to bare all as they dive deep into what it means to be single, in a relationship, or anything in between. Whether you're looking for love, or just want to laugh and commiserate with others, tune in to explore the rollercoaster that is the ever-evolving world of dating. And in the meantime, follow along @seeingotherpeople to feel a little less alone.

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I'm joined by Danielle, a 31-year-old woman living in LA, who opens up about the trauma she went through due to her alcoholic father. She shares how she believed nobody would want to be with her because of what her family was like, and as a result, she closed herself off to finding love. We hear how she moved to Los Angeles to get a fresh start and how she hit rock bottom before creating a life for herself that brought her true happiness. Now, she fears that she's too fiercely independent and successful to find someone. 

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“My Family Was So Messed Up, I Thought I’d Never Find My Person”

On this solo episode, I open up about what I wish I could tell my younger, single, struggling self. I share insight from my experiences as a dater, dating coach, friend, and fiancé. We discuss knowing your worth, not letting someone’s disinterest impact how you view yourself, mindsets to approach dating with, future tripping, fixing people, and so much more.

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10 Things I Wish I Could Tell My Single Self

My friends Sammy and Glenn met as coworkers and became close “friends with nonsexual benefits.” Sammy and Glenn share how they’ve helped each other naviate dating situations by providing the perspective of the opposite gender, talking one another off the ledge when they’re spiraling, and hyping each other up IRL. We hear how they’ve grown as daters, if they’ve ever argued or disagreed on how to approach a dating situation, how they’ve found the confidence to go to singles events & more. 
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Can Guys and Girls Be "Just Friends?"

Jen Lauren is back on the pod and this time, she’s engaged. We’re commiserating about wedding planning, discussing how to set and maintain boundaries, and appreciating the little things about our relationships. We answer your questions about how we know our fiancés were the one, how we balance(d) our side jobs with our full time jobs, and how we reduce stress during high stress times.
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How We Knew They Were "The One"

I’m joined by a 30 year old woman who opens up about spending a year and a half in a tumultuous on again, off again situationship with someone she met at work. She shares how things went from being blissful to confusing overnight, and how she never knew which version of him she would get when she would walk into work or spend time with him. We hear how her friends expressed their concern, how he ruined her 28th birthday, and how she found out he was seeing someone else while they were together. She shares what her healing journey has looked like, the difficulties of trying to move forward while having to see the person everyday, and what she’d learned from going through this experience.
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How To Not Settle & The Key To Confidence with Victoria Alario

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