This episode comes with content and trigger warnings: Domestic abuse, domestic violence, and graphic violence.
The voice you hear on this WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast episode was created by artificial intelligence. It is not a real person's voice.
The words spoken are a composite of beliefs and concepts expressed by dating and domestic abusers found within articles and interviews. They have been collected over nearly two decades. They have been reassembled as complete ideas and thoughts.  
This episode illustrates how abusers portray themselves as victims. There is not one "portrait" that fits all abusers, of course, but many never take ownership of their words or actions, and they justify their abusive and destructive behavior.    

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How an Abusers Thinks. Our Second Installment.

A "must-listen-to" podcast on dating abuse and intimate partner violence hosted by Bill Mitchell, author of the memoir, WHEN DATING HURTS. This book is about the murder of Bill's daughter by her ex-boyfriend.
Bill and his wife, Michele, lost Kristin to dating violence when she was brutally killed in June 2005. It was 20 days after her college graduation.
FACT: 1 in 3 WOMEN suffer serious physical violence at the hands of intimate partners during their lifetimes. Typically, it happens between the ages of 16-24. But can happen at any age. It doesn't need to happen. 
Bill interviews experts with keen insights into dating and domestic violence:
• "DV" agency counselors
• Law enforcement professionals
• Parents of children who were either lost to, or somehow survived, dating violence
• Actual survivors of intimate partner violence
After you listen to the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, share it with those who need to hear it... Remember the 1 in 3 women statistic.

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I was invited to join in an interview with True Crime Connections podcast host, Tiffanie.
This was the perfect venue to continue our review of life-saving information like my latest list of warning signs. Only in the past year have I uncovered some new ones worth hearing about.
I also shared what I call the "Template Every Abuser Follows". These are important areas to know since intimate partner violence does not present itself as evil at first. "IPV" often appears like "this someone" is the embodiment of your dreams. It's all wonderful until you begin to know the real person behind the mask.
Thanks to Tiffanie, the host of the True Crime Connections podcast for this opportunity to speak before a new audience of listeners.
And thank you for following the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast.

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If you are a survivor and want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, please email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com
The WHEN DATING HURTS book (paperback, eBook, and audiobook) can only be found on Amazon.

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Bill Mitchell
WhenDatingHurts.com
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Bill Mitchell - Interviewed by True Crime Connections Podcast

The following story comes with trigger warnings due to both its content and graphic descriptions.
This is part one of a two-part story.
Beany Chalfant brought her story to me in an email. I knew she needed to tell her narrative to us.
By the time she reached 40, she had never been close to intimate partner violence. But all of that changed with one boyfriend. In the beginning, he seemed to bring everything she was missing, but before long, he was more than she could handle.
The story shows us, once more, that having no awareness of the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship makes it too easy to become swallowed alive by an abusive predator.
Beany reached the point where she found ways to live with the frequent emotional and violent behavior doled out by her boyfriend. In his twisted mind, he felt he could do anything he wanted. And when she tried to stop him, he resorted to threatening her life and the lives of her children.
How does anyone remain in a relationship this toxic for 10 years? Listen to the story and you will see.
This is Beany’s story.

NOTE:
If you want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com
The WHEN DATING HURTS book can only be found on Amazon.

Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,
Bill Mitchell
WhenDatingHurts.com
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Beany - Pt 2 of 2 - Warning Signs Missed Almost Cost Her Life

The following story comes with trigger warnings due to both its content and graphic descriptions.
This is part one of a two-part story.
Beany Chalfant brought her story to me in an email. I knew she needed to tell her narrative to us.
By the time she reached 40, she had never been close to intimate partner violence. But all of that changed with one boyfriend. In the beginning, he seemed to bring everything she was missing, but before long, he was more than she could handle.
The story shows us, once more, that having no awareness of the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship makes it too easy to become swallowed alive by an abusive predator.
Beany reached the point where she found ways to live with the frequent emotional and violent behavior doled out by her boyfriend. In his twisted mind, he felt he could do anything he wanted. And when she tried to stop him, he resorted to threatening her life and the lives of her children.
How does anyone remain in a relationship this toxic for 10 years? Listen to the story and you will see.
This is Beany’s story.

NOTE:
If you want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com
The WHEN DATING HURTS book can only be found on Amazon.

Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,
Bill Mitchell
WhenDatingHurts.com

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Beany - Pt 1 of 2 - Warning Signs Missed Almost Cost Her Life

This is part two of a two-part story with Claire. It comes with trigger warnings for its content and graphic descriptions.
I was sent a link with a news segment from the West Coast. The newscasters were showing body cam footage of an intimate partner violence case that would later head into court.
The footage was eerie to watch. It puts you right there outside of the building watching a man deny knowing anything had happened. But eventually, police find Claire in their apartment. Of course, an arrest follows.
Had someone, a passerby, not called for the police, it's uncertain if Claire would have survived further bodily harm from this disgusting man.
The predator who abused Claire had met a target he could manipulate, take complete of, and repeatedly injure. She thought she loved him, and she was prepared to do anything to save the relationship no matter now toxic it became.
This is Claire's story.

NOTE:
If you want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com

The WHEN DATING HURTS book can only be found on Amazon.

Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,
Bill Mitchell
WhenDatingHurts.com
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Claire - Pt 2 of 2 - Her Boyfriend Nearly Murdered Her

This is part one of a two-part story with Claire. It comes with trigger warnings for its content and graphic descriptions.
I was sent a link with a news segment from the West Coast. The newscasters were showing body cam footage of an intimate partner violence case that would later head into court.
The footage was eerie to watch. It puts you right there outside of the building watching a man deny knowing anything had happened. But eventually, police find Claire in their apartment. Of course, an arrest follows.
Had someone, a passerby, not called for the police, it's uncertain if Claire would have survived further bodily harm from this disgusting man.
The predator who abused Claire had met a target he could manipulate, take complete of, and repeatedly injure. She thought she loved him, and she was prepared to do anything to save the relationship no matter now toxic it became.
This is Claire's story.

NOTE:
If you want to share your story of abuse on the WHEN DATING HURTS Podcast, email me: BillMitchell@WhenDatingHurts.com

The WHEN DATING HURTS book can only be found on Amazon.

Thank you for listening to our WHEN DATING HURTS podcast,
Bill Mitchell
WhenDatingHurts.com
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How an Abusers Thinks. Our Second Installment.

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